• " I have faced a situation couple of weeks ago in Hyderabad when I was travelling to my work place from my home. It takes about two hours to reach my work place. One day I boarded a Metro Bus which is overcrowded and i could not find a place to sit. Feeling restless and remembering the people who misbehave with woman in bus was desperate to find a seat to relax and travel. Luckily, after ten minutes I found a ladies' seat to occupy. I thanked God and occupied it. Suddenly, a man whom I thought was about 65years old sat beside me. I was a bit uncomfortable. In fact, was scared. I requested him to go back and occupy another vacant seat. He saw me from his spectacles raising his eyebrow, and questioned me in English with a smile "why do you want me to go back and sit? are you not comfortable me sitting beside you?" and he continued his conversation not giving me an opportunity to speak saying " I have a grand daughter of your age!" He asked about me and my family. I then felt that he is a kind person, He said that he was 75 years old and was a student of prestigious Little Flower High School and worked as a CA in HYD. He lived a good life with his dear wife and children. He educated his children and sent them abroad according to their wish. His children and grandchildren never returned to India to see him. He said he flew abroad to see his children but the cold response he got from them made him come back to India. He was in tears saying my wife was Lucky, She passed away 15 years back leaving me in pain. No person should live as a single without the husband or wife, they are support to each other when kids do not look after them properly. my younger son is good and wants me to live with his family abroad, but my daughter in law is not cooperative about it. Though my eldest daughter in law is good to keep me with them, my eldest son is not as he always calculates everything, My grand children are busy with their friends, they never come to me and atleast speak a few words. I felt there's no point of me living with them and be in an unconfortable state sides. a burden and cause uncomfortable situation to them. I, therefore, returned to India, took a house for rent , meeting my expenses and running my life with my monthly pensions. Now am facing the consequences of sending my children abroad. Never ever send your kids to abroad. I am now going to bank regularly to show up to say that am still alive and need my pension. I am praying to God to please make my way to reach my wife who is near you as soon as possible. He said that he talked heart-fully with some unknown after years and blessed me that am a girl with open heart with a smile and got down at his stop saying It was nice talking to you, thanks for your company". I Got tears and felt it a fortune to meet a person like him. Who gave everything to his children but left with nothing. My question is why do their own children leave their parents all alone? How could a person forget his parents who sacrifice their whole life to satisfy them? who bore all their nonsense with joy? Dear sons, daughters, son in laws and daughter in laws , Please don't forget your parents who sacrificed everything for you, though they earned and saved something or not, though they are good to you or not, be good to them. One day you will become old and you might face the same situation or worse than that.

Change Your Attitude and Change Your Life !!

The old adage is true: attitude is everything! The way we perceive a situation, professional or personal, can and will affect our actions and the end result. I was recently forwarded an article from a friend about a young man who was facing the amputation of his left leg. Given his situation he had multiple choices. He could choose to be angry, bitter, sad, could feel sorry for himself, be stressed and anxious about the impending surgery, or decide to accept his fate and ultimately “be okay” with it. His choice? Make light of his situation, involve others in the process, accept that he could not change what he was confronted with, and move on. Check out his inspiring story here. Reading this reminded me of my grandfather. At age 20 he was diagnosed with Polio. This caused atrophy of the muscles in his legs and buttocks and he walked with crutches for 56 years. Eventually his lower body circulation started to fail and his feet became infected. It was recommended that he have both legs amputated above the knees. He accepted this fate as a life saving measure and understood that his legs were no longer of purpose to him, and were actually a hindrance when trying to transfer and go about his day. Luckily my grandfather had a wonderful sense of humor, and an even better attitude, and as such had cultured this into the rest of us. Before his amputations, and even after, we came up with lists of clichés we could no longer say to him: “put your best foot forward”, “pull up your socks”, “if the shoe fits wear it”, “you are a shoe in” etc. He was just as engaged in making these lists as we were. I remember his jokes continued even days before his death. I was visiting with him and an orderly came in to mop the floor. As she approached the hospital bed where he was lying, he asked her if she needed him to “lift his feet”. She quickly said “no sir you are fine” to which I replied “he is just being funny….first of all he is in a hospital bed that you can mop under anyway, and secondly he has no feet!” This one of my fondest memories of him, and the last conversation I had with him before he passed. My point? Your attitude can determine your outlook and outcome. While we can’t change the situations that happen in our life, we can change how we THINK about them – for the good or bad. But guess what? If you THINK that a given situation made you angry (or sad, frustrated, depressed) then your FEELINGS AND ACTIONS will follow, mimicking your thoughts. A situation does not cause you to be angry, it is your thoughts about the situation that causes your reaction. So, as obscure as it sounds, if you want to improve your outcomes, personal or professional, change your thoughts. Simple enough? Well, not really. Adopting a new attitude and thinking differently about things is hard work – it requires awareness and a paradigm shift to a new way of being. But I am sure everyone can think of one person that they just don’t want to be around – that negative Nelly, that downer, that person who does nothing but complain, that “Droopy” character in real life. These people are life-suckers, are exhausting to be around and positive people tend to avoid them because that negativity can become contagious. Is that you? Then do something about it to change your approach to things and the result will be an enrichment of your relationships. Cognitive behavioral therapy is the process of helping people to understand the relationship between thinking and emotion. It involves working with a therapist to sort through the negative thinking patterns that are dictating counterproductive actions and feelings. If you think you need that, consider that occupational therapists often use this in treatment when our assessment uncovers that someone presents with challenging thinking patterns, or we are finding that a difficult attitude is hindering progress in treatment. Here are some great quotes about attitude that really drive these points home: “Weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character.” Albert Einstein “Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.” Thomas Jefferson “The greatest day in your life and mine is when we take total responsibility for our attitudes. That’s the day we truly grow up.” John C. Maxwell

I guess its difficult to forget a person whom we thought our's...and missed to have in life...
Its hard to think whole life without them...!!! 
Funny thing is we think about them every minute and the other person is Happy with else one !!! 
In turn that person Might hate or take us wrong , as if having affection is sin !!!
Happened to read a quote " Few people come in your life as a memory, remain in your heart but not in your life " True, good to read but hard to digest !!! 
Time has been passing but still feel like poison stuck in throat !!!

I Wish I Never Met You !!!

I WISH I NEVER MET YOU I Wish I never met you in my life.. Until the moment, I had not realized that someone could break my heart..and I would cry for someone... The honesty in your words forced me to like you and see you as YOU.. I never realized that I would be rejected after I started Liking you.. Though,Was hoping you to be back to me cause Sometimes, the only soul that can mend a broken heart is the one that broke it. For they are the ones holding all the pieces. After a long wait I realised you doesn't belong to me and all my dreams with you just shattered. With a pain in my heart started holding all the broken pieces and really wish I had never met you...!! It Hurts Badly When We See A Person Who We Thought And Dreamt Our Whole Life With Some One... They Suck Our Happiness, Push Into Unfortunate list, Leave Their Couple Of Days Memories In Our Heart Which Kills Us Every Day... It's Very Easy To Hurt Someone And Say SORRY.. Don't Know Why GOD Sends A Person Who Doesn't Belongs To Us Into Our Life And Make Peaceful Life Miserable ?!?

February !!! I Will Never Forgive You !!!

I got up with the beep sound of my moible. With eyes half opened I put my hand under my pillow searching my mobile pulled back my hand empty. Turned towards my left and this time I found it. 15 messages in my Inbox couple of them from the network service center reminding me about my usage.Deleted them Mercilessly.Went to next messages and found most of the them with a same message "Happy Woman's Day". I have sent them a reply "Thanks..!! :)" but my heart know that I really dint feel happy.
Delhi incident came to picture, I remembered Jyothi Singh Pandey Delhi physiothearpist who was brutally harrased physically and was dead after fighting for life. My heart pinched and asked a question is this a happy woman's day? Did harrassing a woman stop? many incidents took placed before and after The Delhi Incident..

How far is the world am living secure? Do our next generation 'gal' going to get a social security?

I over heard many opinions on this. There are people with diffrent opinions. Most are offending the incidents which are taking place and killing woman both physically and mentally. I really appreciate those who understood , Stood by 'Woman' to support. To my wonder there are people who say it's the woman who dress in such a way that leads to 'such' incidents!!! I dont think it makes any sense, no one has a right to question her appearance and her outfit.

We Just don't need wishes on woman's day.. We want you to give every girl child or woman's family an assurance or a belief that " We Promise a Secure world for every woman " and we will not restrict a woman to go out but will behave properly.

I really doubt whether am able to express my feelings in a proper way or not.
I dont say all men are bad and woman is good. There are people who are good and bad . But punishing innocent people keeping insight of few bad' people is not correct.
I beleive that Woman is The Beauty  and  Man is the great warrior who protect her. But unfortunately he is the one who is destroying in one or the other way.
A Real Man Never Hurts A Woman.Be Careful When You Make A Woman Cry, Because God Counts Every Tear. The Woman came out of man's rib, it's not from his feet to be walked on and not from his head to be superior, but from his side to be equal. Under the arm to be protected and next to the Heart to be Loved.